Texting is a great way to get to know someone, especially when you first meet them or begin dating. Too often a few cute texts here and there turn into non-stop daily texts. This sounds like it should be a positive, but the longer and more intense the text relationship gets, the less chance that it will move forward. Instead of the texts being about innocent flirting and getting comfortable with a future date, they become the focus of the relationship. It's too difficult, or perhaps the guy just loses interest in talking on the phone or hanging out in person.
Have you ever considered that the guy might be texting you while he's out with another girl? Or sending the text to multiple girls at once? Maybe he's just excited that he's able to flirt and build up his confidence without any further commitment. I think that most often though, guys are just keeping their line in the water, trying to keep their chances open with as many girls as possible.
Be honest if you find yourself in a all text, no talk/hang out/face time relationship. Whatever reason they're giving you for a lack of face time is probably a cover.
I am definitely a girl that is able to flirt/be more confident through text. But I do need to work my way up, there is no point in texting forever because it really gets you nowhere fast. The way I know if I really like someone or see potential is if I get to spend time with them in person one-on-one!
ReplyDeleteHowever I would like to argue that if someone lives in another city/province/country this is sometimes an okay point of contact??? Is it??? :/
Its soooooooo easy to get stuck in this trap of texting, and its SOOOO bad news when it does happen. Its so impersonal and in the end really makes me feel shitty. Sometimes we have to be the ones that break the mold/trap and just make a call or go for a visit! I agree sometimes it needs to happen when long distance is involved though!
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