Sunday, December 13, 2009

What Changed?

How come a guy will totally disappear from the scene after a few seemingly successful dates? So many times I have watched friends spend significant time with a guy, where they'll hang out two, three or even four days in one week, and things seem to be going amazingly well. I've witnessed this situation both with fast-paced sexual activity and none at all. All of a sudden, the guy is so hard to reach we're questioning whether he moved to Antarctica.
I think sometimes guys get scared off. Perhaps they have started to develop feelings for the girl and it is unnerving within such a short period. More likely though, I think the reason behind the cold feet is the girl suddenly seems to easily obtainable. We think the guys are really into us and want to hang out all the time, but maybe their "Sure, you can come over if you want" is not really an invitation. If girls jump at the last-minute ask or off-hand mention of meeting up somewhere a few times, it makes them seem desperate and the challenge is gone. What we mistaken for a true connection and the beginning of a relationship might also be a guy getting annoyed with our quirks or simply wanting some alone time.

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