If the relationship is a good, healthy, happy one, it should complement the people involved, and allow them to keep doing the things they love doing while fitting a new person into their life. Yes, they will probably have less time to spend with their friends, because they are now fitting someone else into their schedule. This doesn't mean that they're ditching their friends for their BF/GF, nor does it mean that they don't care about their friends. People have a finite amount of time, money and energy, so squeezing a new person into the mix means reducing the size of the slices of the pie for everyone else.
Another common misconception is that every time a person can't do something it's because of their BF. Not only is there an issue, as mentioned above, of time allotment, but maybe that person just doesn't want to hang out. If your friend refuses to come out with you or says they have a busy week, they may just be telling the truth! Maybe they have a stressful week at work, maybe they need some alone time, or maybe they just don't want to do what you're asking them to do. Simple enough. I don't hear people complaining about single people failing to make it to birthdays or girls nights, but when a married or attached girl does, the fingers are already pointing.
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