Saturday, February 6, 2010
So...
I don't want you to live here anymore - how do I say that to someone without totally throwing them out? Boyfriends can move in and it can all be wonderful, but it can be difficult too. I feel like moving in together is a huge life change - you may not be ready to marry someone but living together might seem like the most appropriate next move. Several months or years later, you realize it's not the right thing but maybe you're unsure of how to deal with the situation. Do you have ideas for how to end things without breaking someone's heart? How do you work through a person's quirks without completely ruining them for life?
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I've never lived with a boyfriend and i've never been ready to live with one either. I can imagine how big of a step it must be, and a scary one at that. I think that in every relationship there come's a time where you have to take a next step whether it's deciding to move in together, get married, have kids, go your seperate ways etc. You can only be at a stand still for so long until you know there is a reason you aren't taking that next step. I do think that a huge part to being in a relationship is loving someone as a whole, including their faults and quirks because nobody is perfect. God knows I have some quirky habits :)
ReplyDeleteMoving in together is HARD to adjust too, but give it some time, it will work out if you love each other.
ReplyDeleteIf you cant live together after you've reached a serious point in the relationship then i think its a pretty clear sign that you wont last...it can be devestating--but rarely one sided, besides you cant always worry about how the other person will feel ESPECIALLY when it comes to cohabitating-it's where you live, it should be your happy, safe place.
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