Groupies

My boyfriend is a talented musician, and plays in a band here in Toronto. I used to tell people this with a bit of a sneer, doing my best imitation of a snobby Commerce grad. Now I'm really impressed and proud of him. He's a great musician and it's nice to know someone who's so passionate about what they do. So many people, like myself, have day jobs that we aren't interested in, often just to spend our free time doing things that aren't that much more exciting. Anyway, back to the band...my awkwardness comes when he has shows. What do I wear, who will come with me, will I be cool enough, will there be groupies there?? So many questions, so many decisions! I've gotten to know a few of his friends, and the other GFs of the band, so it's really not bad. I am no competition for groupies though - they have made that perfectly clear. Luckily there are only a few Vanderpark groupies out there, and I know my guy is into me. It's still a bit demoralizing/frustrating/annoying when some ditzy girl feels the need to tell me how well she knows the band, who she has dated, or what she thinks of my BF's drumming skills...at every show.
Which is why I'm so so so appreciative of friends who come out to the shows with me. That said - Vanderpark this Saturday, May 2nd @ The Rivoli (Queen & Spadina). Come check it out!

Break-ups

For all of time girls have been thrown-off by inconsiderate, surprise break-ups, leaving them crying and wondering 'WTF?!' at the same time. In my opinion, if two people have been out more than a few times, the woman (in this case let's assume it's the woman being dumped) deserves at the very least, a phone call, if not an in-person break-up. A favourite memory of mine is being dumped via text. 'Things just aren't working out' after 3 months of exclusive dating just isn't cool. A friend was dumped via MSN...which may or may not be worse than text. To me, it seems worse because it's not only impersonal, but totally reminiscent of the relationships I had in Grade 10. Remember those seemingly intense talks you'd have over MSN but when you saw each other the guy would be totally clammed up??
Either way, guys who don't give girls the closure and respect that they deserve suck. However, the good thing about these situations is that it's much easier to be mad, thinking 'WTF' and 'What a loser!', than it is to be sad.

Long Live the Jean

Check out this link...apparently "jeans are dead"...sort of. The article contradicts itself but I was more focused on how ugly most of the featured pants are. I would choose a hot pair of skinny/straight jeans over Harem pants any day!!
http://www.thestar.com/living/article/626356

Scenarios - Part I

I wonder how long it takes of being with a nice, reliable, trust-worthy guy to stop bad worrying about sketchy behaviour. Maybe those thoughts never go away, especially for someone like me who is a Queen of Scenario Development (thanks for that Mom).
Here's a favourite of mine - I phone a guy (be it a BF, random, date, friend who I'm not-so-secretly interested in) and it rings once and goes to voicemail. Over-analyzing leads me to consider the fact that if his phone were out of range or turned off, it wouldn't ring at all. Conversely, if he just missed the call it would ring the standard 4-5 times before switching to voicemail. So, he must have purposely ignored my call. Great. To build on that, I wonder if he's with another girl and discreetly shutting his phone off to avoid suspicion. Or even worse, he and the girl (of course she's super hot) have a good chuckle over me calling him when he's doing something 'wrong'.
Wow...as I read that I understand how whacked-out I sound. But I challenge any of you to tell me that you've never had doubts or created scenarios like that. Of course I don't do it all the time, and the longer I date a good person the less frequently these thoughts arise, but they're still there. You'd think I'd be a skinny, non-eating, chain-smoking stress ball with those kinds of thoughts. Nope...still eating.

Trenchcoats...and Uni-boobs

First off, sorry for the lack of recent posts, but my computer at home has been on the fritz. Thanks for all the comments as of late, I love hearing your ideas and it helps to keep the new content flowing! I am in the process of buying a new laptop, but trying to hold off for as long as possible, so I can buy other, things like clothes, shoes, bags, etc.
Today it rained in TO (surprise surprise) and I sported my trench to work. As I was tying it up over my bulky, loose-fitting sweater, I noticed that I had a major uni-boob situation going on. Well, more like the entire front of me was one big bulge. Awesome. As I walked to work (self-conscious of my new-found look) I noticed that a lot of girls had the same issue with their trenches. I ask of you two things - 1) Please try to save yourself from this horrible phenomenon that is sweeping downtown TO and 2) Could someone please recommend a brand or style of trench or spring coat that doesn't do this? Or maybe I should just slim down a bit...hmmm...it's so much easier to buy a new coat!

ANTM

So I'm medium-obsessed with America's Next Top Model. I admit it, even though I normally shun reality show. I also will be the first to admit that Tyra Banks (the super-model turned TV host) seems crazier each season (for any of you who don't follow the show, I encourage you to watch 10 minutes of one episode to see this). I feel a bit frustrated for her - it's as if she's trying so hard to prove that she's still a model, and still one of the best at that. The sad part is she's trying to prove it to women half her age, half her size, and with their whole careers in front of them. I give her credit for all her successes, but maybe she should accept that she's no longer a supermodel, and stop striking poses on the show every 2 minutes (she seriously does this, usually mid-sentence). Just a suggestion.
For those fellow ANTM followers; my life has improved dramatically since Natalie was booted last night. For me, she symbolized every tall, hot, bitchy girl who's ever been horrible to me. Seeing her kicked off was like revenge for all the dirty looks and mean words over my adolescent years (not that I'm bitter or anything...).

Appearances

Do you ever walk down the street/enter a bar/go out for lunch and feel like everyone else looks way better than you? I get that feeling a lot. Actually for me the common feeling is that of a short, chubby, clothes-are-a-bit-too-tight girl, with messy hair.
To save myself this angst, I have started to pay a lot more attention to how I look (and feel) when I'm out in public, even if that means just out at the grocery store. I'm definitely not one to spend hours on make-up or hair, but I'm done with the days of throwing on sweats, only to walk out the front door of my building and feel my self-esteem plummet. And in addition to helping our self esteem, we never know when we'll run into an ex, or more importantly, when we'll be sharing a subway seat with Mr. Right.
My new motto has been to try to be polished and 'together'. Even if I don't feel 'together' on the inside, I try to ensure my outfit looks half-decent, my hair has been brushed, and there's some aptly applied make-up on my face. If it honestly and truly doesn't bother you, congratulations. For the other 99% of women, spend an extra 10 minutes before leaving the house and you'll be so glad you did.